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7 Characteristics of Good Relationship
1. Both sides see the relationship as an opportunity to give
One of the basic relationship problems is selfishness. How does selfishness occur? In my opinion, selfishness occurs when someone focuses more on getting rather than giving.
The more someone focuses on getting, the more selfish he or she
becomes. That’s why the willingness to give is essential for good
relationships. Both parties should see the relationship as an
opportunity to give. This is the foundation upon which the other points
below are built.
2. Both sides are willing to change
Nobody is perfect but everyone can grow. In a good relationship, both
sides are willing to change. They realize that they are not perfect and
there is still a lot of room for improvement. Instead of blaming their
partner when something goes wrong, they look inside to see if there is
something they can change. When both sides have this attitude, the
relationship grows stronger and stronger.
3. Both sides are willing to admit mistakes
In a good relationship, both parties aren’t afraid to admit mistakes.
Instead of being defensive, they openly admit the mistakes they make.
They can then work together to correct the mistakes. This, of course, is
not easy to do. It takes a humble heart to admit mistakes.
4. Both sides are willing to listen first
In a good relationship, both sides are good listeners. They are willing
to understand their partner’s position first before trying to get
understood. Doing this is much easier when both sides see the
relationship as an opportunity to give (characteristic #1).
5. Both sides support each other
Not only are both sides willing to listen, but also they give what their
partner needs. The law of reciprocity states that when we do good to
others they will also do good to us. We reap what we sow. By supporting
each other, both sides in the relationship get what they need.
6. Both sides are open to each other
Misunderstanding is one of the basic relationship problems. That’s why
it’s essential that both sides are open to each other. When they have
something they don’t like about their partner, they should communicate
it rather than just keeping it in their heart. Of course, they should do
so in a respectful way so as not to offend their partner. Part four
of How to Win Friends and Influence People (which I review last week) gives us tips on how to do that.
7. Both sides have integrity
In a good relationship, both parties act in line with what they think
and say. They keep their promises. This is important because they can
then trust each other. This trust makes the relationship strong.